Don’t Be So Sure of What You Want That You Miss Something Better

I once heard a quote that stuck with me:

“Don’t be so sure of what you want that you don’t find something better.”

It’s one of those deceptively simple lines that carries a lot of weight. Lately, I’ve been thinking about it more and more—especially as it relates to big life decisions. It speaks to something deep in the human psyche: our tendency to anchor ourselves to a vision of what we think we want, even when something better might be within reach.

This is especially true when it comes to major purchases like buying a home—or a car.

These are some of the most significant financial and emotional decisions you’ll ever make. And with that weight often comes a sense of pressure: to get it right, to be certain, to stick to the plan. But here’s the truth—you’re allowed to evolve. You’re allowed to change your mind. You’re allowed to grow into something new.

When I worked in real estate, I saw this all the time. Buyers would come in with a rigid list of “must-haves,” but over time, those preferences would shift. Maybe the big backyard didn’t matter as much as being near their favorite café. Maybe natural light suddenly beat out square footage. I’d often notice a sense of guilt creeping in—clients apologizing for changing their minds, as if they were doing something wrong.

But that change? That’s not something to apologize for. It’s growth. It’s clarity. And the most valuable thing I could offer in those moments was simply space—space for people to explore what truly resonated with them.

Now, working at Porsche Sacramento, I see the same behavior unfold in a different form. Customers walk in with their hearts set on a specific model—maybe a 911. It’s iconic, aspirational, and breathtaking. But every now and then, I meet someone who’s clinging so tightly to their original idea that they almost miss the car that’s actually right for them.

Just recently, I worked with a gentleman who came in determined to buy a 911. As we talked, I got a better sense of his lifestyle, his driving habits, and what he really wanted out of the ownership experience. Eventually, I suggested he try a Panamera. It wasn’t on his radar at all—but once he drove it, everything clicked. The space, the feel, the drive—it was exactly what he needed, even if it wasn’t what he originally thought he wanted.

And here’s the thing: he didn’t “settle.” He found a better fit. A better match. One that made sense for who he is right now.

So whether you're buying a house, a Porsche, or anything else that matters deeply to you, give yourself permission to stay curious. Don’t lock yourself into a decision just because it’s what you thought you wanted yesterday.

You're changing. You’re learning. You’re becoming someone new every day—and that’s the real privilege of being human.

Leave space for that.

And don’t be afraid to discover something better.